Possibility Management distinguishes between feelings and emotions.
Emotions
Rooted in the past.
Can last for hours, days, weeks, months.
Inauthentic feelings from others – Family, Church, School, Nation
Incomplete feelings from the past.
Feelings
Rooted in the present.
Lasts for minutes.
They arise, are used with gratitude, then depart.
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Feeling and emotions are expressed by different Ego States
Parent emotions: From authority figure, institution, belief system, government, corporation, country, culture.
Adult feelings: Use your discernment to distinguish your feelings, authenticate your feelings, responsibly apply the energy and wisdom of your feelings, This is a centered state where your can identify your triggers and make space around them.
Child emotions: Incomplete feelings from the past. Something happened and it was not safe to express your feelings. You surpressed these feelings. Child emotions get triggered when you experience something similar in the present.
[Authenticating feelings: What is the purpose of this feeling? Where is it going? What is it’s intention? Be vulnerable. Feelings want to stay in relation with others.]
You can feel anything about anything – we learn this by doing Feelings Practice.
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Possibility Management recognizes four feelings: joy, sadness, anger, and fear.
New Map of Feelings
Anger – Doer, Maker, Warrior You can say no, say yes, start things, stop things, change things, create clarity, make boundaries, maintain integrity, hold space, protect, take action
Joy – Leader, Visionary Inspire, Be enthusiastic, have vision, experiment, be kind, be playful, be at ease, appreciate the world and those around you, be generous
Sadness – Communicator, Lover Open up, share, be still, be vulnerable, accept things, let things go, grieve, heal, listen, empathize, connect, be wrong, be human, be intimate
Fear – Creator, Magician Detect danger, measure risk, concentrate, be curious, make plans, stay centered, make agreements, be precise, stand there in the nothing and improvise